Dumbest Story of the Week…


And you absolutely won’t believe me on this one… well… maybe you will…


A woman crashed her car in Florida… that’s bad

While she was shaving her bikini area… uh well…

But her ex-husband was steering from the passenger side. ???

And she was on the way to see her current boyfriend. [scratching head]

But she was driving on a suspended license… that’s bad

Just one day after being convicted for driving under influence… that’s very, very bad

At least she wasn’t talking on the cell phone… that’s good

Nobody was hurt… that’s very, very good.

So she is going back to court… uh wait a sec… that didn’t work out so well the first time.

 

And of course I have the link to the story… with her lovely mug shot…

Woman causes crash shaving bikini area

 

This world just gets crazier and crazier,

John



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Ideas for a Fun Date at Home Part 2


To continue my thoughts on ideas for a fun date at home… part 2. OK, how about going out to the backyard when it gets dark and putting out a blanket on the grass and lie down to watch the wonders in the heavens above. This is a great conversation start you know.

And if you do a little homework ahead of time… you can point out the interesting features in the sky… constellations… planets etc. And better yet… if you have a telescope… you can search and locate the gorgeous constellations for your date to look at… add a little color but don’t get too technical… the last thing you want to do is sound boring…

Another great romantic dating ideas is to rent a romantic movie and make some hot buttered popcorn to munch on. For those of you who like food spicy… ask your date if they like hot pepper flakes or herbs sprinkled on the popcorn for more taste.

And the romantic movies? Well, there are lots of them. You could even try the oldies such as “Casablanca” or “Night to Remember.” Or even try a scary movie. It is a GREAT escuse to snuggle…

More great dating ideas would be to have a board game or two, cards, or jigsaw puzzles to work on. What you can do ahead of time is go to the local thrift stores or garage sales and find some good inexpensive games. For those of you would want to kick it up a notch… the winner gets a prize agreed by the both of you. How about a fantastic back rub?

Don’t forget to have a few snacks and beverages to make the game more enjoyable and fun.

I’ll be back with more ideas for a fun date at home in the next blog post,

John



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Ideas for a Fun Date at Home Part 1


Don’t get me wrong here… going out on Fridays or Saturdays and enjoying the night in town is awesome… especially when you are with someone you love or want to know better.

And you should do it a lot because it is really fun. But sometimes… it makes sense to just say home. But you know what? Having a date night at home can be great… if you have some GREAT ideas for a fun date at home!

So that is the key here… otherwise… it is going to be boring and your date isn’t going to be happy with you.

Right? RIGHT!

So let’s think up some creative date idea that really rocks.

And besides… having a fun date at home means you don’t have to worry about dressing up or how you act in public. You can almost let your hair down… but you still have to be cool about it, man…

The first great dating ideas I have is to… cook for her or him. So you don’t cook? No problem! Find out how to do it… practice it until you get good at it… and then spring it on that person.

I bet he or she will be impress with you.

You could even watch a Food TV show or two and search the FOOD TV website for some great recipes.

And besides… nothing says romance than the delicious foods that is coming out of your kitchen. You can offer your mate a glass of wine or Champaign… while they are waiting for the mysterious and wonderfully smelling dinner to arrive at the table.

Or you can let your date watch you put the final touches on the food and be impressed with your *ahem* culinary skills.

OR!

You both can cook a meal together. I can’t begin to tell you how much I enjoyed the experience of cooking a GREAT meal with an attractive MOTOS… you could keep the meal simple… or make it more complex… it all depends on the overall skill level of the cooks of course.

And oh yeah… don’t forget the desserts… and soft music for dancing afterward.

I’ll give you some more romantic dating ideas that you can do at home in the next couple of blog posts.

Until then… have a great evening with your date,

John



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Are You Frustrated with the Internet Dating Profile? Part 3


OK… to continue why you shouldn’t be intimidated when you read other folk’s Internet Dating Profile…

First of all, although some folks put way too much details about their perfect partner… chances are… she or he will never find that person. Although it appears to make them feel a little pickier and more selective… that is all fine and good.

But I would go ahead and approach them with an email even if you don’t measure up to all their ideals.

And why… well, because you think of a great deal about yourself too! And you too are picky and selective about who you think is a good fit for you.

So while reading a MOTOS online dating profiles… you feel that he or she is pretty close to your ideals… well, bang away and send that email out.

Because like they say about lottery tickets… you can’t win if you don’t play.

Or in golfing metaphor… when putting the golf ball, try to hit the ball 1 foot beyond the hole… because if you hit the ball too short… it has ZERO chances of going it. But if you hit the ball a little further… your chances of getting the ball in the hole goes way up.

Get the drift?

So stop feeling intimidated about the internet dating profile and take the plunge. Send out the emails. If it gets rejected or ignored… so what. That person wouldn’t know a good thing if it bumped them in the nose.

Everyone is special, including you,

John



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Are You Frustrated with the Internet Dating Profile? Part 2


And somehow… 1000s and 1000s of people are “accidentally” finding and falling in love with each other on the Internet. It happens. But you definitely can improve your Internet dating profile and emails writing skills and make them “rock.”

However, of all the people who have tried the online dating profiles and so on… most of them quit the dating sites after a couple of months because of frustration. The main thing you have to remember is this… while there are some differences in approaches in online dating and meeting in the real world… there are lots of commonalities too.

You still have to be the best version of yourself. You still have to hold yourself in the highest regard… and you still have to respect MOTOS too.

So that means… always behave appropriately, don’t be a needy person… and don’t be an a-hole either.

And trust me on this one… just like in real life… there are going to be shallow and rude folks on the Internet. In my opinion… if a woman turns down your suggestions for meeting or doesn’t return your emails… so what? You may have dodged a bullet or she already has a lot of things going on in her life.

And by dodge a bullet… if a woman was acting like a prima donna… just imagine the poor sap that does go out with her… he is going to find out sooner or later that she is a terrible person to plan the future with.

Well, let me put it this way… just because a woman is “hot” doesn’t necessarily mean as a man… you are going to have a terrific time. Making love might be great… but if she makes you feel like crap all the time… is she really worth it?

I would have to say, probably not.

Do you see where I am going with this one? You need to decide what kind of woman you really, really want. For instance, my ideal woman is cute, funny, feminine, and has a good degree of self esteem.

Now, she isn’t going to be perfect… but darn near as perfect as she can be for me!

I don’t want to be responsible for making her happy… nobody can. But I do want to make her feel comfortable and safe. I want her to be what I’m not… a woman.

Do you see what I’m doing here? I’m not creating some image of fictional mega woman that promises wild sex 7 nights a week.

I’m looking for a terrific woman that is right for me.

And how do I find her? In the real world? Well, that is definitely possible but you are going to have to approach a lot of women “cold” in the streets. I think it is much easier to approach women on the Net… and if they reject or ignore you… no big deal. Just move on to the next one… there are 1000s of them to check out.

The next biggest tip is to never settle. Write down what kind of woman you want… and be realistic dude…

I really think you should give online dating profile a shot… if you haven’t done it yet. Put a little work into creating a GREAT online dating profile and find out how to write GREAT emails.. and Internet dating can be a lot of fun…

John



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Are You Frustrated with the Internet Dating Profile? Part 1


A lot of women and men get really, really frustrated when they read the members of the opposite sex (MOTOS) Internet Dating Profile because it makes them feel they are not up to standards.

And sure… some online dating profiles are nothing more than a Xmas wish list. And no such person could ever qualify for that profile.

But the real truth of online dating is this… everyone is in the same boat as you are. You are all looking for someone that you can be attracted to… feel connected with… for companionship… to share intimate moments together… or to go on fun adventures with.

And why not? This is what being a human being is all about. So what is with the unreasonable expectations that you see on the profiles of others? Well, many times… it is all negotiable. In so many words… if you are better in some areas… it might make up for a criteria that the other person deems important.

And sure… just like anything else… you need to put a little time into this… you can’t just jump in and expect everyone to go gaga over you. It isn’t going to happen that way.

My opinion is that you should seek additional help from the best in the Internet business. And I’ll tell you more about that in a later post who I think is your best shot at improving your online dating profile, emails and other details that will boost your status on the net.

Talk to you later,

John



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Hypnosis for Overcoming Low Self Esteem Part 3


To continue about using hypnosis for overcoming low self esteem… make sure you have it right. Do you have low self confidence or low self esteem? There is a difference… and keep in mind, I’m not a professional by any means.

But hey… if you are skeptical of the entire hypnosis thingy… chances are, you are probably not a good candidate for hypnosis because it requires that you are open to it.

But I do hear good things about hypnosis… it can help clear your mind of negative thoughts.

The truth about anything with your mind… for self improvement… what you need to do is replace those bad thoughts with some new and improved thoughts. Your mind is not a permanent state… you can change things within yourself.

And the real truth of the matter is this… everyone and their cousins have some degree of self doubts and inner fears… it is normal… but some of us has a little more… and there are ways to defeat those negative thoughts and turn them into positive and optimistic ones.

Good luck man,

John



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Hypnosis for Overcoming Low Self Esteem Part 2


So I am going to continue the important subject of overcoming low self esteem. Like I said in the previous blog post… low self esteem is when you don’t like yourself very much. And low self confidence is when you don’t feel you can do something reliably enough.

I hope by now you can tell the difference because the REAL difference is as wide as the Atlantic ocean. But back to hypnotherapy and whether or not it can help with your low self esteem issues…

Quite frankly, if you have low self esteem… chances are that you are drinking, using drugs and/or have depression problems… all are bad news. I strongly urge you to seek professional help because after all… this is just a free information site.

I don’t think this blog is the best place to find help for your problems other than… suggestion that you seek help.

Sorry for being redundant but I wanted to make sure you understand that low self esteem isn’t a weakness and nobody is going to laugh at you if you seek professional help. I actually think that seeking help for your problems is a sign of strength because it means that you are strong enough to recognize the problem and are willing to seek help.

That is far more than a lot of folks who continue to do destructive life habits.

But hey… I’m in this for the long haul. So you can give hypnotherapy a try… everyone has a different ability… and those who are open to being hypnotized… may find it beneficial to have new thoughts planted in their heads that are positive and life affirming…

But do something about overcoming low self esteem! That is the important thing here…

I wish you the best of luck,

John



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Hypnosis for Overcoming Low Self Esteem Part 1


So is hypnosis effective for overcoming low self esteem? Well, why not one prognosticator would say… pointing at the successes of those quitting smoking or losing weight… or even overcoming their fear of flying.

But what about low self esteem?

Well, before we go down that road… let’s make sure you are looking at the right diagnosis… first of all, I’m not a professional in any shape or form. So take my blog post for what’s it is worth… it is free information that I gleaned from the Net.

So what do you want to improve? Your self confidence or your self esteem?

Do you know the difference between the two… because there is a HUGE difference here.

Self confidence is the ability to duplicate success… such as… you have self confidence when you drive a car to work each day. You get there and back without crashing the car. So when you get up in the morning and drive onto the road… you have self-confidence that you are going to duplicate the success of getting to work and back home.

Now self esteem is another story… it is what you think about yourself. If you are treating your body badly… chances are you lack self esteem because you don’t like yourself.

So is it possible to have self confidence and low self esteem? Absolutely!

For example… Kurt Cobain… that music star who killed himself back in 1994… he was a tremendous presence on the stage when singing… but in real life… Kurt didn’t care much for himself… so he committed suicide. Just sad…

So if it is low self esteem that you suffer from… get some professional help. It is out there… don’t hurt yourself, man.

But if you lack the self confidence to socialize with others… to approach members of the opposite sex (MOTOS) for dating and more… well, heck you sure can fix that up with excellent advice from the top experts on dating and relationships on the Net.

Check out some of the books that I recommend on my site… it is probably the best way to go to gain self confidence…

But hypnosis for overcoming low self esteem? I don’t know… it can work… and may be worthwhile trying out. But in my observation of humans… I think you should see a professional first for guidance.

talk soon,

John



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Marriage Relationship Advice Part 3


So what exactly is quality time for the wife? Well, obviously it isn’t the time you spent taking her car for an oil change or fixing the kitchen faucet. If this is what you are thinking… then you really do need this marriage relationship advice.

Dude, she wants you to spend time with HER!

Get a clue man… take her to a movie or a walk in the park when the weather is nice and sunny. You need to use your imagination to capture her soul. Don’t do boring or predictable…

Find something that you KNOW she will like… and do it with her… it can be anything that is together time.

And if a woman is reading this blog post… understand this… men love to have things spelled out for them… so tell her exactly what you want to do… and he’ll do it if he is any sort of stand up guy.

So make your time a gift… and spend it on her. Make the time refreshing… new… exciting…. and something for her to look forward to. It is a treat that can keep on giving if you do it right… take this marriage relationship advice for what it is worth… and get going.

Good luck,

John



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Marriage Relationship Advice Part 2


Now it is perfectly understandable that guys want to spend more quality time pursuing their own interests such as watching football, playing computer games or fishing. So they would more likely just hand the credit card to their sweetie and tell her to have some fun shopping. In the vain hope of course that the mall is open long enough… and is interesting enough… that the wife will happily wile the hours away until the football game is over. That would be terrible marriage relationship advice btw…

The truth of the matter is… this is just so wrong. What she really needs is quality time… only time… for her… from him. And he has to be totally into sharing that time with her… or everything just falls apart under the intense gravity pull from the black hole. (OK, I was just checking to see if you were paying attention.)

The biggest problem that I see for most relationships is that men give up their abilities to be a man. To lead… and ignoring her needs… pursuing his own stuff… isn’t being a man. And it is no wonder why many relationships are in so much trouble.

And yeah… yeah… blame it all on the guys… well, I do! And the reason of course is if the men remembered to lead in the relationship… to take that mantel of being a man… he will always earn the respect of his wife. In that time he totally bobbles the ball… he will lose her respect… and god forbid… she is going to be bitter and unsatisfied…

See where I’m going here? If you both loved each other in the past… then it is absolutely fixable… learn how to become the man again. To lead her… to bring adventure and romance to her. And she will respond if you do it right.

My suggestion is to check out The Master Plan by Scot McKay. It is a good program. I use this one myself to stay on the path.

Good luck,

John



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Marriage Relationship Advice Part 1


Guys… are you ready to be surprised by what your woman really wants from you? Well, she doesn’t want jewelry. She doesn’t want that fancy car. She doesn’t even care about lingerie or the latest designer shoes… Give up? Keep reading this marriage relationship advice post to find out…

So what does your wife really want from you? Nope… it isn’t chocolate, cheesecake or truffles. So forget food. What women really want and get less and less of it every year from their husbands is…

TIME!

Crazy huh? Think about it… and then think again. How much time do you really share with your wife? The truth is very little because life can be so busy nowadays. Work, commuting, children and even repairs around the house. And then you are so tired and all you can think about is plopping in your sofa and watch TV for a while before going to bed.

And you do it day after day…

And as your family matures… the kids need rides to and from events at school. And what is affected is the communications and conversations between the both of you… that you used to take for granted. And she really loved talking to you and sharing positive experiences and laughing with you.

And it isn’t happening anymore… so it is time to get that lost time back…

But I’ll talk some more about this in my next blog post about marriage relationship advice.

Talk to you later,

John



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Step Parenting Advice to Prevent Driving a Wedge Between Your Family Part 3


Step parenting is a tough business because sometimes, you can find yourself stuck in the middle of a no-man’s land. And it is a very uncomfortable place to be.

So what to do?

Well, as parents, the both of you must accept the fact that you are the adults and the children are the guests in the house. In so many words, they must toe the line of respect and obedience. And the both of you (the adults) must come to some sort of agreement to present a united front so the children so try to use that old divide and conquer strategy of ruining the family unit.

And note this… even if you disagree on the issue… as parents, you must agree to disagree in private (way outside the ears of the children). Never, ever let the children know that they are causing dissent among the two of you… trust me on this… it is much easier and simpler to do it this way.

And of course, as adults you must decide between the two of you who is going to discipline the children. Who is going to modify the behavior of children when they break the rules. And the children must know that they cannot appeal for a reprieve from the other adult. The children must understand that if they break the house rules, there are consequences and the discipline is applied equally. Doing it this way will give the step parent authority that the parent will back up… always.

To be honest with you… step parenting is a very tough job because you will be viewed as an outsider that has no authority. And as adults, the parents must remember that keeping the family strong means the parents cannot be the weak links. And being great parents means you will have great children that love and respect you… even if there are disagreements. And a strong family means a strong marriage relationship.

Everything is figureaboutable.

John



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Step Parenting Advice to Prevent Driving a Wedge Between Your Family Part 2


This is the second blog post I’m writing… about the important but not mentioned often subject of step parenting advice.

Now psychotherapists call this the triangulation effect and it is no wonder. As many step parents will say, they feel caught in the middle of the family drama. And this is just a huge issue between the step parent, the spouse and their kids. And many times, the stress and issues are constant and mind-numbing.

For some reasons, many kids feel they need to come between their parents in a divide and conquer kind of strategy. And naturally, when the natural parents are divorced and there is a step parent… well fireworks can and often does happen.

And the conflict eventually becomes the natural parent with the children against the step parent. Defending the children efforts to create divisiveness and conflict.

Which just sets up a terrible battle front between the parents.

I’ll be talking a little more about step parenting advice in my next blog post,

John



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Step Parenting Advice to Prevent Driving a Wedge Between Your Family Part 1


Some of you may remember that screwball comedy starring Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda called, “Yours, mine and ours.” Although that movie was created back in 1968 and predated the Brady Bunch by almost a decade… it was the classic movie plot of a rather large step parent family and step parenting advice. There were 18 children! And the movie was based on a real life family!

Just wow…

But what that movie did do was point out that step families are not always harmonious ones. And there are so many step families in United States in the modern world because many families break up and get put together with other couples.

By now, you would think we would know what works and what does in step parenting… but no.

Step parenting is just as hard as being a regular parent… maybe even harder if the step child doesn’t adjust easily. And besides, step parenting always is portrayed in movies and TV shows as being evil and the “enemy.” Which in my opinion is unjustifiable because there are so many good-hearted folks that get stuck in a bad situation that had nothing to do with them.

As you might imagine, whenever a new “parent” joins a family, the children feel a desire to carve out their territories and space for themselves. And many times, the adults get into the fray. Which results in lousy situations that threatens the fabric and integrity of the family unit.

In a strange way, the children tend to want to defeat the step parent and the biological parent is emotionally torn between the conflict between the new spouse and the children.

I’ll be talking some more about more step parenting advice in my next couple of blog posts so be sure to come back…

Later,

John



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