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Has Spouse Intimacy in Your Marriage Gone Kaput?
As most new marriages go… is seems that the love story will never end… you both will reassure each other that “This time it is different!” That the odds and the statistics of other marriages doesn’t apply to yours…
But the reality is just human nature… we tend to get bored with the same old stuff. We tend to stop putting in the time to keep things fresh and exciting.
As a result… making the time just to get together after a few years of marriage becomes another one of those required chores. Even though you both never intended it to be that way… responsibility gets in the way… jobs, stress, child rearing… and so on.
So the question of course is… how do I spice up my spouse intimacy levels? Well, it does take a little work… preferable for both of you. But let’s just talk about you today…
What can YOU do to dial up spousal intimacy? To make your significant better… feel desired… to feel wanted and respected? So that they will want to reciprocate and make YOU feel the same way.
Just like getting that magic “high” when you both first met each other…
Yeah?
So the first thing to do is to agree to make the time. I’m talking about private and uninterrupted time… leave the electronic gadgets at home or shut them off. Ask your children favorite aunt or grandma to watch them for a few days. And take a long weekend from home. You could check in at a romantic Bed & Breakfast inn or somewhere special…
So make some time for each other… besides… this person is the one you choose to share your live with… so start sharing! 
Other ideas that you both can do is reserve a honeymoon suite in a out of town hotel… (of course, only open the door for room service only… you need to eat once in a while).
But the key thing is to get out of the relationship rut… and also guys… even when you marry your sweetie… you should never, ever stop dating her. And I don’t mean a dinner and a movie… I mean show HER what a interesting world we live it. Find things to do together because… you are the man… you wear the pants in the house.
If you make HER wear the pants… she will become a little resentful and lose respect for you. Life is boring enough… so don’t make it any more boring and show her that you can still lead!!
Seriously dude… lead her…
But back to the post…
Another thing to keep in mind when you go out of town for a weekend getaway (without the annoying electronic gizmos – you did leave them behind, right?)… is that you both can focus on each other. You could give each other a great massage… it will make you both relaxed and comfortable…
And let nature happen…
One more thing to keep in mind before going back home… spend a little time talking things over… why you love being with each other… what you can do to change the routines that seems to be interrupting and deepening the relationship rut.
It’s OK to calmly talk about these serious subjects… but keep in light and non-confrontational… the key thing here is to refocus the relationship so that it sings again…
Now who wouldn’t want that?
Which brings up one of my biggest peeves… TVs or computers in the bedroom… cummon guys! Those things are distractions and do nothing for relationships. In fact, I have no TV… and there is a reason for my madness… it gives me time… valuable time to do the things that I want to do… like reading a good book. Like talking things over with the family.
So you may need to make some changes… to recapture the time so that you can talk and see each other again. And don’t forget to keep “dating” each other… it helps you reconnect and keep the magic going.
Good luck… as for the spouse intimacy part… many times… just knowing new ways to be intimate… new ways to make love to each other… can make things more exciting… because truth be known… most folks get in a rut while making love to each other… and do the same thing over and over again. So that is it predictable…
Well, it ain’t so hot…
This is why I strongly suggest that you pick up a copy of Gabrielle Moore’s industry standard when it comes to knowing how to please a woman… her book is called, Female Orgasm Revealed. And no… this isn’t one of the sleazy and tawdry programs that makes you feel like a slime bucket.
Which would be counterproductive huh? Nope. Gabrielle is gonna show you how to really ratchet up your wife’s sexual desires. In a tastefully and classy way that is hot and steamy…
But what if you are a wife and want to know more about how to please your husband? Well, then I strongly suggest you check out Robert and Susan Irwin’s book. Sexual Satisfaction for the Christian Wife. It is pretty good…
All in all, a strong marriage does take a little work on your part. And we can all use a little education how to bring the best version of lovemaking into the bedroom… right?
Wishing you passion in all,
John
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